New To Dating Online


Are you visiting our dating website for the first time? Are you new to online dating? Do you need help using Findmeyou? Do you need help with your profile? 

If you answer ‘yes’ then you’ve come to the right place. Maybe you’re feeling nervous, anxious or unfamiliar with the way online dating works or simply need help using Findmeyou dating? If the online dating process seems daunting, don’t worry, stay calm and read on.

Online dating is the norm
Online dating is accepted by most people as the ideal tool for finding someone. Online dating can be a convenient way to meet someone because most of the talking, messaging and getting to know each other is done before you meet face-to-face, often in the comforts of your home.
Being able to view endless matches without having to commit or make a move until you’re ready has got to be beneficial to anyone looking for love. Rather than the 1 or 2 options, you may have in a bar you now have access to thousands of people at your fingertips, giving you an abundance of knowledge about other members without having to introduce yourself. In order to succeed you will need a little confidence and thick skin, not all dating journeys are a bed of roses.

How much control
Some dating websites offer or suggest your future partners for you, matching them to your profile or tastes. Others let you have total control in choosing who is good for you. We have both options. 
Findmeyou has a matching system based on the questions you and others answer in your profile section. There is also an advanced search matching system within your profile area. Our interest bubble feature matches you with members based on interests you both share. You can browse other members and choose potential dates this way or by using our video date feature which allows you to meet face-to-face online, safely. You have full control over your settings and options making your online dating experience more tailored to your needs.

Profile, Profile, Profile
Try to create something honest, compelling and attractive when filling in your profile, first impressions count.
Your new profile needs to grab other members attention from the first read. Be yourself, be honest, and don’t be afraid of sharing a little bit more than ‘hi’ or ‘hello’. See our profile help page for writing tips. It may be tempting to lie or bend the truth when creating your profile, maybe you think your life is mundane, boring or lacks excitement, but don’t be tempted to spice up your profile with false information or lies because this will backfire when the real dating begins. If you’re honest, show confidence and come across as yourself people will be drawn to you. Be clear about who you are and what you want out of dating, this will rule out any mistakes and hopefully attract the right matches.

Privacy Is Key
You are about to embark on an amazing adventure, one that will bring new people into your life, before you start to explore the online dating world you need to remember your privacy. Don’t give too much information away, too soon.
No phone numbers, no email addresses, not even where you work!

Get to know each other first, and even then it’s best to wait until you meet in person before sharing personal information. With any dating site, you’re at risk of being scammed which is covered in more detail in our dating safety section.

Do not send money to anyone. Ever! Follow your instincts if something feels wrong.

Too Desperate
If you’re new to online dating and want to enjoy the success you need to be in it for the duration, you need to commit and be patient.
It will be more difficult to find someone if you seem too desperate, there is nothing wrong with showing potential matches that you are looking for love, but go easy with the ‘full on’ approach. If you’re dating someone there’s nothing wrong with showing them that you’re interested in them, just don’t scare them off. Your future match might sign up two months after you sign off, so give online dating a fair go before giving up.

Be prepared for dishonesty
You should always be prepared for dishonesty. Although we have designed features to tackle the ongoing problems of fake profiles and false exaggerated photos, we can’t guarantee that some of our members won’t lie about their personal details. Our face-to-face video date feature will show you members live in real time, their mannerisms and the way they currently look, but it won’t show you their lives or their personalities, just be vigilant and use your instinct before meeting anyone in real life.

Be prepared for rejection
People have different tastes, so don’t take rejection to heart. Other members 
may base their search on looks, jobs, styles, conversations, attitudes, backgrounds and you may not tick their box. These can be valid reasons for not wanting to pursue a relationship, so try to accept rejection as an integral part of the online dating process and remember there will be many profiles that you reject along the way.

Know what you want
Knowing what you want can eliminate wasted emails, time and effort making online dating an easier process. There’s a good chance many of our members won’t fit the kind of person you’re looking for, so stay positive, choose carefully, but don’t be too picky. Make a pros and cons list, sift through profiles with care, especially if you are using a website where the searching is your responsibility.

Always be safe
Use first name terms to start with until you’re confident to give out more information, but even then wait until you have been on a couple of dates. Don’t give out phone numbers until you know the person you are talking to well enough to trust them. 
Do not give out any bank details or information that is private, even if the person you are communicating with doesn’t seem desperate or seems genuine. Be careful of scams. There are people who are prepared to develop a relationship, and invest time before trying to scam you out of money, so be vigilant. You can find all the information to help fight against scammers or dating dangers in our dating safety section. Always meet your date in a public place, preferably during the day and always tell someone where you’re going, who you’re meeting and how long you’re expecting your date to last. Try to stay sober on a first date.

Don’t be afraid
Although there are certain things you should and shouldn’t do when dating, you can’t go wrong being yourself. U
se our features to help you find the right match. If you have any general questions about using our website you can find answers to your questions in our FAQ’s section or on our Fmy features page.


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All the information and advice on is subject to personal tastes or experiences.
There is other dating advice available from many other sources, the advice on is given to protect and help our customers when searching for love. Although we can’t be responsible for our users dishonesty, we do advise against it. is an honest based dating service, we hope to provide our users with an honest online dating adventure and experience. This does not mean our advice will guarantee our customers dating success, but will give them the tools and best opportunity for finding love.