Creating the best online dating profile

 

how to write the best online dating profileAre you struggling to find love? We can help you create the best online dating profile. The internet is very useful for finding what you want quickly, without too much effort. Whether you’re searching for a 1976 copy of Elton John & Kiki Dee’s (Don’t Go Breaking My Heart) hit record, your favourite recipe, your long lost family member or a random hilarious video on YouTube, the internet gives you every desire and makes life easier.

Yet, when it comes to the desires of our heart or finding someone to date the search can be less successful, often stressful, filled with insecurities, and frustration! There is an etiquette when it comes to finding someone or presenting yourself well online, an entirely different language and approach is needed. When creating your dating profile, (which can be one of the scariest and self-examining processes you’ll ever do), you don’t often get a second chance at first impressions. So, it’s a good idea, to be honest, and to reveal who you are in the real world and how you want to be seen by others, from the start.

Your profile can’t be rushed, yes, it’s easy to write “Hi, I’m John, I like fishing and football. I am outgoing and I drive a nice car”, but this profile won’t do you any favours. Writing your profile and getting across who you are and what makes you tick without going on and on can be the most challenging part of online dating, but the most important thing to get right if you want good results. Without a good profile or leaving it to chance, your online dating experience and success rate may be dramatically lower.

When creating the best online dating profile, make it stand out! You need to be noticed for all the right reasons. It’s pointless creating your profile under the radar, hoping someone will stumble upon it one day. Make your online presence attractive and interesting and try to catch other members’ imagination and attention. Our team understands how difficult it can be to capture who you are and how you live in the real world within a few paragraphs and a couple of photos, so, we have provided the following guide to help you create the best online dating profile, one that will hopefully help you communicate with the reader and show who you are before meeting in person.

 

Self-examination
Be prepared, to be honest, and ruthless when talking about yourself. This doesn’t mean that you have to reveal every aspect of your personality, who you are deep down or what you believe, but it does mean opening up enough to appeal to everyone viewing your profile. You have to come across as interesting enough for people to want to know more. Don’t over think, don’t worry about beautiful poetry, and don’t ever use cliches.

You might love ‘walking on the beach’, you probably love ‘drinking champagne on a blanket with nibbles in the sun’, but if you want people to find the real you, then leave this kind of personality description out of your profile, you can always talk about things like that on the real date if the mood takes you. This kind of description can be off-putting, your profile will probably be skipped, resulting in you and those viewing your profile missing out.

There is nothing wrong with talking about yourself, about your qualities, and what you love to do, but keep it low key and simple.
If you know what you want from someone and what kind of relationship you want, then your profile will write itself and you’ll stand a better chance of finding a good match.

 

Short and sweet is key
Would you introduce yourself to someone at a bar with a forty-minute breakdown of your entire life story, revealing the history of your life, your past relationship experiences, and a side order of cringe comments and cliches about what your ideal date would be? No, No and No!

Keep things fresh and to the point. Obviously, you need to come across interesting enough for people to read further, but don’t waffle on needlessly about the unimportant subject matter. Members looking for possible dates tend to flick over profiles that resemble short stories or lists of the member’s credentials. So, instead of going on and on about pointless information, include your basic personality traits and your key qualities or requirements for a relationship.

 

Painting a vivid picture
Bring your profile to life!
Your profile should stand out from the rest. Be descriptive enough to capture someone’s interest and add colour to something that might look mediocre or rushed to give you the best chance of being noticed. Paint a picture of yourself by using the right words, tell someone about your goals and expectations (briefly), always make it clear that your profile is the one worth reading.

 

Truth is the best policy
There’s no point lying on your profile!
You’ll only be wasting your time and the time of potential matches if you lie on your profile. People tend to bend the truth about their weight, how tall they are, how much money they have, and even how much hair they have, some people even lie about what they do regarding work, or where they have been to in the world, or what car they drive.

If you’re thinking of lying, Stop! Stop! Stop!

Be honest and write the exact profile that represents who you really are.
If you lie on your profile to get a date, your first encounter will start out on false pretenses, not a great start. Your date won’t thank you for it, and you may jeopardise something that might have gone somewhere and worked if you’d have just been honest.
Be honest!

 

Photos are important
Physical attraction and the belly flutters is often a must at the start of any relationship, so choosing the best up to date photos really matter. Choosing the right set of photos can help bring your profile alive and connect all the things you’ve written about in your profile.

For safety, try to use photos that haven’t been used elsewhere on the internet
There are a number of ways your online dating profile can be connected to your real identity, especially if you have a lively social lifestyle. Photos are a particular vulnerability for identity theft and can be used to create fake dating accounts, so before uploading a photo, consider whether you’ve used it in other contexts such as social networks and try searching for the image using TinEye or Google Image Search before uploading it. Your best option would be to take current photos of yourself, and then upload them to your profile.

There are professional dating photography companies such as Hey Saturday who can help you capture the real you to use on your dating profile. Include fun photos, serious photos, sexy photos and just remember what message you’re trying to convey. Dark photos, reflection mirror shots or selfies are a no, no, what could this possibly say about you and your personality?

Your photos determine how potential dates view you and instantly give potential matches an idea of what kind of person you are. The real you is what people want to see, so bring your profile to life, choose photos that show your different sides, and most importantly if possible, your personality.

 

Tell people about you!
When members are viewing profiles they need to imagine how they would fit into your life, or whether you have common interests. Include your interests and hobbies as this can save both you and those looking time. Don’t worry about adding your must-have qualities and the things that get on your nerves. However, try to remain flexible, because no one will fulfill all of your needs and desires (and if they do then get dating).

Although many people change or adjust when in a new relationship, there may be certain aspects of your life that you aren’t willing to compromise on, so you may want to mention these briefly. Findmeyou does not support the idea of making sure your profile attracts as many potential dates as possible regardless of whether you’re compatible or whether you have the same interests or not, we believe that your profile has to be written for your benefit too, resulting in you attracting the right kind of person.

 

Your username reflects on you
Be sure to think about what your username is saying about you, some people think that “sex bomb 69” or “big boy 1” is going to secure them dates, it’s not. Some people may find these names as off-putting and might flick to the next profile without looking deeper, so keep it simple and use your name or something neutral.

Your profile status is probably as important as your username. Before anyone reads your entire profile the first thing they will see is your username, photo, and status. Treat your status caption with the same delicacy as your username. People will want to read more if you have thought about these two aspects carefully. Your username and status should reflect a little taster of you, not too much, but enough to entice people in.

 

Your first, second or third draft
Don’t make the mistake of writing your profile straight onto our dating site without giving much thought to it. Use notes, ask friends to write one and build your profile separately first. Make one, two or ten drafts before committing what you’ve written, or not read. Show your draft to a friends or family first, they’ll have no reason to lie to you, and they’ll most likely tell you what needs changing, and whether you’re being honest enough.

Don’t worry if you’re not inundated with date requests within the first 24 hours. Online dating can take time. Remember, you are looking to meet the right person for you, there’s no need to rush the process. Keep writing until you get the right version of yourself.

 

Humble or confident?
There is nothing wrong with being humble, however, when it comes to creating your dating profile people want to see confidence. Don’t confuse this with arrogance, a fine balance is required. If you’re a wannabe chef who loves to cook up a storm in the kitchen, let people know you are.

Maybe you are a top class show jumper and love horses, maybe you can balance a fork on each ear whilst reciting the alphabet backward. Whatever your talents and achievements, mention them. There’s no need to be cocky or overconfident, no one likes a show-off, but people do want to know what you can do. You’re trying to sell yourself and if written in the right way you will receive much more interest, for all the right reasons.

 

A story “versus” a list
There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to laying out the structure of your profile, some people choose to list everything about themselves, others choose to create a story about their life and interests to make it easier for the reader to absorb. Lists are OK, but if you want your profile to stand out and capture interest, then add short stories and include something for the reader to get excited about.

 

Revealing your past
Most people wouldn’t necessarily want to include their past in their dating profile, but you’d be surprised how many people have enjoyed good results and have had positive feedback by including the important things. Like mentioning whether you’re ‘divorced’, ‘separated’ or the fact that you have ‘children’. This can actually be very insightful for those viewing your profile, resulting in a further investigation into you.

This advice is only a guide to help you create that all-important dating profile, other advice and source material is available online.

All the information and advice on findmeyou.com is subject to personal tastes or experiences.
There is other dating advice available from many other sources, the advice on Findmeyou.com is given to protect and help our customers when searching for love. Although we can’t be responsible for our users dishonesty, we do advise against it. Findmeyou.com is an honest based dating service, we hope to provide our users with an honest on-line dating adventure and experience. This does not mean our advice will guarantee our customers dating success, but will give them the tools and best opportunity for finding love.

Creating the best online dating profile

Are you struggling to find love? We can help you create the best online dating profile. The internet is very useful for finding what you want quickly, without too much effort. Whether you’re searching for a 1976 copy of Elton John & Kiki Dee’s (Don’t Go Breaking My Heart) hit record, your favourite recipe, your long lost family member or a random hilarious video on YouTube, the internet gives you every desire and makes life easier.

Yet, when it comes to the desires of our heart or finding someone to date the search can be less successful, often stressful, filled with insecurities, and frustration! There is an etiquette when it comes to finding someone or presenting yourself well online, an entirely different language and approach is needed. When creating your dating profile, (which can be one of the scariest and self-examining processes you’ll ever do), you don’t often get a second chance at first impressions. So, it’s a good idea, to be honest, and to reveal who you are in the real world and how you want to be seen by others, from the start.

Your profile can’t be rushed, yes, it’s easy to write “Hi, I’m John, I like fishing and football. I am outgoing and I drive a nice car”, but this profile won’t do you any favours. Writing your profile and getting across who you are and what makes you tick without going on and on can be the most challenging part of online dating, but the most important thing to get right if you want good results. Without a good profile or leaving it to chance, your online dating experience and success rate may be dramatically lower.

When creating the best online dating profile, make it stand out! You need to be noticed for all the right reasons. It’s pointless creating your profile under the radar, hoping someone will stumble upon it one day. Make your online presence attractive and interesting and try to catch other members’ imagination and attention. Our team understands how difficult it can be to capture who you are and how you live in the real world within a few paragraphs and a couple of photos, so, we have provided the following guide to help you create the best online dating profile, one that will hopefully help you communicate with the reader and show who you are before meeting in person.

 

Self-examination
Be prepared, to be honest, and ruthless when talking about yourself. This doesn’t mean that you have to reveal every aspect of your personality, who you are deep down or what you believe, but it does mean opening up enough to appeal to everyone viewing your profile. You have to come across as interesting enough for people to want to know more. Don’t over think, don’t worry about beautiful poetry, and don’t ever use cliches.

You might love ‘walking on the beach’, you probably love ‘drinking champagne on a blanket with nibbles in the sun’, but if you want people to find the real you, then leave this kind of personality description out of your profile, you can always talk about things like that on the real date if the mood takes you. This kind of description can be off-putting, your profile will probably be skipped, resulting in you and those viewing your profile missing out.

There is nothing wrong with talking about yourself, about your qualities, and what you love to do, but keep it low key and simple.
If you know what you want from someone and what kind of relationship you want, then your profile will write itself and you’ll stand a better chance of finding a good match.

 

Short and sweet is key
Would you introduce yourself to someone at a bar with a forty-minute breakdown of your entire life story, revealing the history of your life, your past relationship experiences, and a side order of cringe comments and cliches about what your ideal date would be? No, No and No!

Keep things fresh and to the point. Obviously, you need to come across interesting enough for people to read further, but don’t waffle on needlessly about the unimportant subject matter. Members looking for possible dates tend to flick over profiles that resemble short stories or lists of the member’s credentials. So, instead of going on and on about pointless information, include your basic personality traits and your key qualities or requirements for a relationship.

 

Painting a vivid picture
Bring your profile to life!
Your profile should stand out from the rest. Be descriptive enough to capture someone’s interest and add colour to something that might look mediocre or rushed to give you the best chance of being noticed. Paint a picture of yourself by using the right words, tell someone about your goals and expectations (briefly), always make it clear that your profile is the one worth reading.

 

Truth is the best policy
There’s no point lying on your profile!
You’ll only be wasting your time and the time of potential matches if you lie on your profile. People tend to bend the truth about their weight, how tall they are, how much money they have, and even how much hair they have, some people even lie about what they do regarding work, or where they have been to in the world, or what car they drive.

If you’re thinking of lying, Stop! Stop! Stop!

Be honest and write the exact profile that represents who you really are.
If you lie on your profile to get a date, your first encounter will start out on false pretenses, not a great start. Your date won’t thank you for it, and you may jeopardise something that might have gone somewhere and worked if you’d have just been honest.
Be honest!

 

Photos are important
Physical attraction and the belly flutters is often a must at the start of any relationship, so choosing the best up to date photos really matter. Choosing the right set of photos can help bring your profile alive and connect all the things you’ve written about in your profile.

For safety, try to use photos that haven’t been used elsewhere on the internet
There are a number of ways your online dating profile can be connected to your real identity, especially if you have a lively social lifestyle. Photos are a particular vulnerability for identity theft and can be used to create fake dating accounts, so before uploading a photo, consider whether you’ve used it in other contexts such as social networks and try searching for the image using TinEye or Google Image Search before uploading it. Your best option would be to take current photos of yourself, and then upload them to your profile.

There are professional dating photography companies such as Hey Saturday who can help you capture the real you to use on your dating profile. Include fun photos, serious photos, sexy photos and just remember what message you’re trying to convey. Dark photos, reflection mirror shots or selfies are a no, no, what could this possibly say about you and your personality?

Your photos determine how potential dates view you and instantly give potential matches an idea of what kind of person you are. The real you is what people want to see, so bring your profile to life, choose photos that show your different sides, and most importantly if possible, your personality.

 

Tell people about you!
When members are viewing profiles they need to imagine how they would fit into your life, or whether you have common interests. Include your interests and hobbies as this can save both you and those looking time. Don’t worry about adding your must-have qualities and the things that get on your nerves. However, try to remain flexible, because no one will fulfill all of your needs and desires (and if they do then get dating).

Although many people change or adjust when in a new relationship, there may be certain aspects of your life that you aren’t willing to compromise on, so you may want to mention these briefly. Findmeyou does not support the idea of making sure your profile attracts as many potential dates as possible regardless of whether you’re compatible or whether you have the same interests or not, we believe that your profile has to be written for your benefit too, resulting in you attracting the right kind of person.

 

Your username reflects on you
Be sure to think about what your username is saying about you, some people think that “sex bomb 69” or “big boy 1” is going to secure them dates, it’s not. Some people may find these names as off-putting and might flick to the next profile without looking deeper, so keep it simple and use your name or something neutral.

Your profile status is probably as important as your username. Before anyone reads your entire profile the first thing they will see is your username, photo, and status. Treat your status caption with the same delicacy as your username. People will want to read more if you have thought about these two aspects carefully. Your username and status should reflect a little taster of you, not too much, but enough to entice people in.

 

Your first, second or third draft
Don’t make the mistake of writing your profile straight onto our dating site without giving much thought to it. Use notes, ask friends to write one and build your profile separately first. Make one, two or ten drafts before committing what you’ve written, or not read. Show your draft to a friends or family first, they’ll have no reason to lie to you, and they’ll most likely tell you what needs changing, and whether you’re being honest enough.

Don’t worry if you’re not inundated with date requests within the first 24 hours. Online dating can take time. Remember, you are looking to meet the right person for you, there’s no need to rush the process. Keep writing until you get the right version of yourself.

 

Humble or confident?
There is nothing wrong with being humble, however, when it comes to creating your dating profile people want to see confidence. Don’t confuse this with arrogance, a fine balance is required. If you’re a wannabe chef who loves to cook up a storm in the kitchen, let people know you are.

Maybe you are a top class show jumper and love horses, maybe you can balance a fork on each ear whilst reciting the alphabet backward. Whatever your talents and achievements, mention them. There’s no need to be cocky or overconfident, no one likes a show-off, but people do want to know what you can do. You’re trying to sell yourself and if written in the right way you will receive much more interest, for all the right reasons.

 

A story “versus” a list
There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to laying out the structure of your profile, some people choose to list everything about themselves, others choose to create a story about their life and interests to make it easier for the reader to absorb. Lists are OK, but if you want your profile to stand out and capture interest, then add short stories and include something for the reader to get excited about.

 

Revealing your past
Most people wouldn’t necessarily want to include their past in their dating profile, but you’d be surprised how many people have enjoyed good results and have had positive feedback by including the important things. Like mentioning whether you’re ‘divorced’, ‘separated’ or the fact that you have ‘children’. This can actually be very insightful for those viewing your profile, resulting in a further investigation into you.

This advice is only a guide to help you create that all-important dating profile, other advice and source material is available online.

All the information and advice on findmeyou.com is subject to personal tastes or experiences.
There is other dating advice available from many other sources, the advice on Findmeyou.com is given to protect and help our customers when searching for love. Although we can’t be responsible for our users dishonesty, we do advise against it. Findmeyou.com is an honest based dating service, we hope to provide our users with an honest on-line dating adventure and experience. This does not mean our advice will guarantee our customers dating success, but will give them the tools and best opportunity for finding love.